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THIRTY YEARS AGO THE EXPRESSION ‘BURNOUT’ HAD NOT EVEN COME INTO BEING

Tired heroes are becoming increasingly younger

It sounds very unlikely but thirty years ago the expression ‘burnout’ had not even come into being.
It was referred to as being under strain and those suffering most from it were in their fifties. And, as was befitting that time, it mostly concerned men. I would have liked to, at that time, thought of the resounding name – tired heroes. An honorary nickname. Men who worked, bore a great deal of responsibility and carved the meat on Sundays.

The heroes developed physical symptoms, became ill and a mere shadow of their former selves. Exhausted and tired.

BEING UNDER STRAIN HAS EXPERIENCED A REVERSE CAREER FOR ALL AGES.

From being under strain to a burnout

By now, being under strain has experienced a reverse career for all ages. After the 50-year-olds, it became an often seen guest among the 40-year-olds, then the 30-year-olds and by now it is a frequent visitor for the 20-year-olds. And, in these times of equality, for both men and women. A new era, a new name. And we call it: Burnout.

Not an honorary nickname for the new bearers. They, who weren’t successful. Young, promising and totally burned out. And that in a world that offers more opportunities than ever before. To so many. And circumstances that can be created.

A quarter-life crisis or be successful!

At a quarter of your life. Your head filled with possibilities, expectations, choices, opportunities, career. As well as missed opportunities, lost loves and goals not achieved. What is new? It’s been this way for ages. Look in life’s mouth and jump.

CAUSE I WONDER SOMETIMES / ABOUT THE OUTCOME / OF A STILL VERDICTLESS LIFE / AM I LIVING IT RIGHT?
– JOHN MAYER.

A quarter-life crisis or be successful!

At a quarter of your life. Your head filled with possibilities, expectations, choices, opportunities, career. As well as missed opportunities, lost loves and goals not achieved. What is new? It’s been this way for ages. Look in life’s mouth and jump.
People still jump but no longer practice. There is no playtime. You can only make a mistake once. You have to then stand there. Knowledge is everything and experience is suspicious. That which you have to know, comes with the speed of the Internet and is already accessible at a very young age. It’s all about the cloud, stupid. The amount of daily information has increased substantially and can no longer be taken in at a glance.

When Canadian psycho-analyst Elliott Jacques coined the term  quarterlife crisis in the 1960s, it concerned an existential struggle.
A question regarding the sense of life. Just like Benjamin, in the Mike Nichols’ movie The Graduate. Those who do not ask this question, sell themselves and life short.

A struggle that cannot be won?

Currently however, the term is related to burnout. To have to admit defeat at a quarter of your life. Because the struggle can’t be won. All looks well on the outside. Highly educated, beautiful career, a rich social life and with the future still ahead of you. On the inside, however, there is unrest, uncertainty, a feeling of failure, a panic regarding that which has not yet been achieved.

In the old days having a choice was a luxury, the creation of an enrichment. Currently it’s a loss. Why? Because we must be able to do everything, now and at the same time. Hesitating, considering, understanding someone’s feelings, taking time, not yet committing yourself; that’s no longer an option. Here are all the opportunities for everyone present, so what are you waiting for? Make a choice. Be successful!

The burden of being successful ?

If you’re not successful, have the courage to fail!

IF SUCCESS BECOMES A CHOICE, AND BEING SUCCESSFUL AN OBLIGATION, FAILURE IS A SPECIAL WAY OF STOPPING TIME AND CREATING SPACE.

The burden of success.

And if you’re not successful? If being successful doesn’t make you happy? If the excessive flow of information can’t be handled? And you can’t seclude yourself from sky-high expectations? When success turns into climbing a mountain without the proper gear and protective clothing. When being successful becomes a choice and an obligation. Instead of a reward at a later stage, after the climb. An increasing number of people between the age of twenty and thirty, already experience being successful in the various areas of their life at a young age as an unbearable burden. It makes them dispirited, anxious, indecisive, passive and results in a large feeling of failure and being unsuccessful.

Dare to fail and reap the sweet benefits

If success becomes a choice, and being successful an obligation, failure and being unhappy is a special way of stopping time and creating space. It requires courage to consider whether being successful in life makes you happy. After all, who doesn’t want to be successful before reaching the age of 30? Maybe you. Because you want to take time to find out what really makes you happy. Because developing yourself is much more valuable than having arrived already. Because you want to know who you really are.

After all, you still have three-quarters of your life left to reap the sweet benefits. And to then wait until they have become so sweet, that all the acidity is gone.

Ewoud Dekker

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Ewoud Dekker

Ewoud Dekker, founder and owner of Arte dell 'Anima Senior 4D System Coach, Healthcare Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Trainer.

 

Marian de Neef

Marian Dekker-de Neef, founder and owner Arte dell 'Anima Senior 4D System Dialogue Coach, Hypnosis Regression Therapist, Voice-dialogue Coach and Trainer